| Location | Hounslow |
| Age | 20 years |
| Cause of Death | Epilepsy |
| Date of Birth | 27/05/1987 |
| Date of Death | 22/01/2008 |
| Visitors | 2,584 since 04/10/2008 |
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I can still remember the day Crystal was born i was over the moon i was a big sister and not just a
little sister anymore.
I looked after Crystal for many years like she was my own till the day she went in to care in May
1996. I missed her bad but also had my own daughter to look after and care for but saw her as much
as i could. Crystal met her partner (Paul) while still at school (Green School for girls) and become
a mummy to Aimee in 2003 and i was at the birth along with Paul and Crystals Foster mum. Crystal was
a wonderful mummy to her. Crystal went on to have baby Jemma with (Chris who was a old flame) in
October 2007 and was also a great mummy to her. As me and Crystal had grown up and become mummys (me
to 4kids her with 2) we didn't see each other much as we would have liked but was always there if we
needed each other.
Not long after Crystal had Aimee she started getting pins and needles down one side every now and
again so she went to see her doctor who sent her for an ECG which then showed she had epilepsy.
Crystal was told that she most proberly had epilepy since birth but with her hormones changing with
the pregnancy it triggered it off worse but they couldn't say for sure. Then About 3 years ago she
was staying at mine and i found her having a big fit (foaming from mouth/shaking)This was her first
big fit and after this she had them quite alot from what i have been told. Crystal was on medication
for this but being her she didnt always take them and this could be one of the reasons why she isnt
here now.
I can still remember the day i got told my sister had passed away....
It was the 22nd Janaury and i was at home like most days and i got a call from my eldest daughters
school asking me to contact my sisters partner (Paul) and then i knew something was up as we didnt
talk much so (he rung the school as he didnt have my number or my address) i rung him and this is
when he broke the news to me that my baby sis had passed away and no one knew why. All i remember
was me screaming and shouting NO and Daniel asking what was wrong, i couldnt speak, Daniel had to
take the phone and speak to Paul.
After Daniel spoke to Paul he rung his mum to ask if she could have Jack as i was in such a state. I
called my older sister and she came round and i had to brake the news to her. Both me and my sister
went all over the place to break the news to people we knew some that we hadnt spoke to in years.
The bit the got to me most was that so many people knew of her passing away before me even my uncle
in Mexico knew before me.
I was told.....
Crystal had been found by her daughter (Aimee) and her friend (Terri) stone cold and not breathing.
Terri's neighbour tried to give mouth to mouth as no one else was able to but it was to late. I went
to see Aimme the day Crystal died and it broke my heart. She said Auntie Lyndsey my mummy is now a
angle and she is in the sky, I had to cuddle her and say yes Aimee she is, Mummy is a star and every
night she will be looking over you. Aimee also was telling everyone how her mummy had purple lips
and wasnt talking to her. I just wanted to curl up and die no little girl should have gone through
that.
It was left to me to sort out everything and i felt it was my role to as we both dont speak to our
parents and i was the only old enough blood relative she spoke to at the time she passed away. I
done it all but it still feels that i let her down and things wasnt enough. we have now been told
she passed away from SUDEP which is SUDDEN UNEXPLAINED DEATH IN EPILEPSY.
I miss her so much that i suffered bad depression.
Aimee is now living with her daddy (PAUL) and Jemma is as far a i know living with her Auntie from
her daddys side of the family as chris is in the army and he thought he would not be able to look
after Jemma as a single dad.
RIP KISSY I LOVE YOU AND WILL DO MY BEST IF YOU BABYS NEED ME.
In the new year i will start to have more contact with Aimee and Jemma as now i am feeling a bit
stronger and feel a bit more able to speak about Crystal with out braking down in floods of tears.
A wonderful sister to LYNDSEY, KRISTY and LAURA, auntie to JOSHUA, LORI-ANN,CHELSEA, ANNALEIGHSHA,
EMILY, CODY, JACK and TIM, mummy to AIMEE and JEMMA and sister-in-law to DANIEL and BEN
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SUDEP
What is SUDEP?
SUDEP (Sudden Unexpected Death in Epilepsy) is a term used when a person with epilepsy suddenly dies
and the reason for the death is not known. For example, it is not due to injury or to drowning
following or during a seizure, and it is not due to a prolonged and severe seizure (status
epilepticus).
What causes SUDEP?
The cause is not known. If a post mortem examination is done on a person who dies of SUDEP, no
abnormality is found to account for the death. There are various theories as to why a person with
epilepsy may die suddenly. One theory is that a seizure may affect a part of the brain that controls
heart or breathing function, and so the heart and/or breathing just stop during a seizure.
How common is SUDEP?
The risk of SUDEP is small for most people with epilepsy. It is estimated to cause about 500 deaths
per year in the UK. This sounds a lot, but when you compare it to the number of people who have
epilepsy, it is quite rare. (Epilepsy is common. About 1 in 30 people in the UK develop epilepsy at
some stage. Most people with epilepsy have a normal life span and do not die of SUDEP.) Of those who
die from SUDEP, it is most common in people who have generalised tonic-clonic seizures, especially
in young adults. The most important 'risk factors' seems to be poor seizure control, and seizures
occurring during sleep.
* In people with severe epilepsy (frequent and severe tonic-clonic seizures), it is estimated
that about 1 in 200 die of SUDEP each year.
* In people with mild idiopathic epilepsy (epilepsy of unknown cause), it is estimated that
about 1 in 1000 die of SUDEP each year.
* In people who are in remission the risk of SUDEP seems to be negligible (very low). The term
'in remission' means that you have had seizures in the past, but have none or very few at present.
This is either because of treatment, or because the epilepsy has settled down.
How can the risk of SUDEP can be minimized?
If you have epilepsy, it may be possible to reduce the small risk of dying from SUDEP by:
* Preventing seizures as much as possible. This is usually by medication. In some people,
surgery is used to prevent seizures when medication has not been successful in preventing seizures.
However, in some cases it is not possible to stop seizures fully. (See leaflet called Treatments for
Epilepsy for details.)
* Being aware of the potential risk of night time seizures. Some people only have seizures at
night when asleep (or have them more often at night.) As the risk of SUDEP is still present even for
night time seizures, if possible, you should try to prevent these seizures as much as possible. This
may mean a review of medication. But again, in some people it is not possible to prevent seizures
fully.
Thanks for reading this as most people dont know about this till it happens to someone they know.
♥ღ☆ Sleeping star, Shining Bright, It's Time for Me to say Goodnight. ♥ღ☆ so close your Eyes & Snuggle up Tight, I'm wishing you Sweet Dreams Tonight ♥ღ☆
vGods Lent Child....
I'll lend for you a while, a child of mine God said,
for you to love the while she lives and mourn for when she's dead.
It may be six or seven years, or forty two or three,
But will you, till I call her back take care of her for me.
She'll bring her charms to gladden you and should her stay be brief,
You'll always have her memories as a solace in your grief.
I cannot promise she will stay, since all from earth return,
but there are lessons taught below, I want this child to learn.
I've looked the whole world over, in my search for teachers true,
and from the folks that crowd lifes lane, I have chosen you,
Now will you give her all your love and not think the labour vain.
Nor hate me, when I come to take this lent child back again.
I fancy that I heard them say "Dear God thy will be done"
For all the joys this child will bring, the risk of grief we run.
We will shelter her with tenderness, we'll love her while we may
and for all the happiness we have known, we'll ever grateful stay.
But should the Angels call her, much sooner than we planned,
We will brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand.
love halina xx
We never stop to measure
Anything we might just miss
But if the wind should blow by softly
You'll feel an Angel's Kiss.
A Kiss that's sent from Heaven
A Kiss from up above
A Kiss that's very special
From someone that you love.
For in your pain and sorrow
A Kiss will help you through
This Kiss is very private
For it's meant for only you.
So when your heart is heavy
And filled with tears and pain
And no-one can console you
Remember once again.
About the one you grieve for
And so sadly miss
That gentle breeze you took for granted
Was your Angel's Kiss.
This Tribute Is For This Weekend
Candles Will Be Lit Again As Usual For Monday
LITTLE ANGELS
When God calls little children
To dwell with Him above,
We mortals sometimes question
The wisdom of His love.
For no heartache compares
With the death of one small child
Who does so much to make our world
Seem wonderful and mild.
Perhaps God tires of calling
The aged to His fold.
So He picks a rosebud
Before it can grow old.
God knows how much we need them
And so He takes but few
To make the land of heaven
More beautiful to view.
Believing this is difficult,
Still somehow we must try.
The saddest word that mankind knows
Will always be 'goodbye'.
So when a little child departs,
We who are left behind
Must realise God loves children
Angels are hard to find.
If roses grow in heaven,
Lord Please pick one for me.
Place it in my Loved ones hand
And tell them it's from me.
Tell them that I love them
And when they turn to smile,
Place a kiss upon their cheek
And hold them for a while.
Remembering them is easy,
I do it every day.
But there's an ache within my heart
That will never go away.
I looked towards the clouds today
And for a moment saw your face.
I wondered just where you have gone
With hope it's a better place.
Did you show yourself to me today,
To tell me you're all right?
Or was it just a daydream
Playing tricks upon my sight?
We will always feel the void inside
Because you are not here.
But each new thought you send our way
Lets us know you're near.
So until our journey nears its end
And we hear the angels sing,
We'll face each new day as it comes
And live off the love you bring.
If tears could build a stairway,
And memories were a lane,
We would walk right up to heaven
And bring you back again.
Our hearts still ache in sadness
And secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you
No one can ever know.
But now we know you want us
To mourn for you no more.
To remember all the happy times,
Life still has much in store.
Since you'll never be forgotten,
We pledge to you today:
A hallowed place within our hearts
Is where you'll always stay.
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
MEMORIES OF YOU
Memories of you...
Will stay in my heart forever,
Memories of you...
I will always treasure.
Memories of you...
make me feel warm inside,
Memories of you...
are the love I cannot hide.
Memories of you...
help me through the day,
Memories of you...
will never fade away.
Memories of you...
are beautiful and dear,
They seem to grow still brighter
with every passing year.
Precious words by Sophia Parker
Thinking of you on this sad day
Love from Liz Stuart Maxwell's mum x
1st anniversary
heya i just wana light a candle for you on your 1st anniversary look after your family crystal
have a good day
edel gannon
My Tribute x
I cannot even begin to explain how I would feel if one of my sisters was to pass away. It would be bad enough knowing that they were going to leave me but for someone to be taken so suddenly it must be heatbreaking. I know what it is like to feel angry and upset because I dont understand why someone has been taken, but losing your sister is something completly different altogether.
I cannot even begin to think of the thoughts in little Aimees mind when she found her mother like that. No child should ever see that, in fact no adult would want to see that. It nearly made me cry just reading about it.
Its time like this in life when people ask the questions- Why was this person taken from me? and Why am I still here? Why havent I been taken?
I just hope that there is somewhere out there that these innocent people go and I hope that one day you will be reunited with your sister and her children will be reunited with their mother. Until that day you have to learn to keep strong, as i'm sure Crystal-claire will be watching over you with a smile on her face.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
sending so much love to you crystal xxlove halina xx
hi crystal sorry i havent been on to say hello to you yet,your sis is so sweet,keep her un born bab safe,have you met my brothers yet david and karl?its so cold here keep warm,love to you and your family love halina xx
The Day You Went Away
Today brings tears and memories
of sorrow and regret
a day filled with such sadness
it's not easy to forget
For those who's lives you touched
has always loved you so
and it was hard to accept that you'd ever have to go
And so this message is for you
especially to say
this world lost someone wonderful
the day you went away
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